It was something trivial like leaving a glob of toothpaste in the sink. "How did we get here?" you ask. You are both delirious, you need to sleep, but no one is sleeping until this gets resolved. You sit there trying to stay awake and engaged. You wonder if there is any way out of this conflict. Right now you feel powerless to do anything differently in the future. Is this how your life will always be?
Does this argument sound familiar?
Here are 3 ways you might be feeling ...
Sandbagged
You feel sandbagged! You work hard to keep the peace and to do the right thing, yet you find yourself in arguments that drop out of the sky and never seem to end.
What if you could see these conflicts coming and say just the right thing to stop the argument in its tracks? No tricks, no manipulation - just a solid, strategic, consistent response that allows you and your partner to quickly repair and enjoy the rest of your day.
Slandered
You're a good person, and a good partner. But they make you feel like the worst person on the planet every time you get into an argument.
What if you could could approach your next conflict with such sturdiness that you could hold your own goodness, and their hurt at the same time? You are able to acknowledge that you made your partner feel bad, without feeling like that makes you a bad person.
Stuck
You feel stuck in a loop! Even when you have resolved the conflict, your partner brings it up again, and each time you feel like all of your progress is lost. Here we go again!
What if you could take such complete ownership of the hurt you have caused that it doesn't matter how many times your partner brings it up, you will always own it completely, sturdily and permanently.
Want to Stop Arguing and Start Loving Again?
Check out this free course ...
I'm sorry, but men don't know how to apologize. It's not our fault though, because no one ever taught us how! In all of my training to become a therapist, no one taught me the timeless art of apology. I had to learn it through trial and plenty of error (just ask my wife of 26 years!)
In this course I share everything that I have learned about apologizing -- I have broken it down into three steps:
Step 1: The Repair Space: Recognize you are in what I call the Repair Space
Step 2: The Two Coins: In every conflict there are 2 coins presented, Choose the Right Coin!
Step 3: The Mea Culpa: This is the framework for kind of apology that will lead to lasting healing.
This video-based course will give you everything you need to see these conflicts coming, and say just the right thing to stop the argument in its tracks? At the end of this 1 hour course you will have the tools you need to respond skillfully to your next conflict so that you and your partner can see your conflicts for the relationship-building opportunity that they are. From this place you can continue building the relationship that will serve you, your family, and your community for the rest of your lives.
When men fail in life or relationships, we often label it a character defect, which can bring on shame.
After working with men for the past 15 years, I don't believe in a lack of character, only a lack of skill.
(heal/him) is about developing those skills of character that will give you the strategy and confidence you need to face your greatest challenges.
What if practicing the wrong skills is what is standing between you and the life you desire?
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Daniel Hope (he/him) I believe that we are all vulnerable heroes finding our way forward on a collective path. As a student and teacher of the Enneagram and the Hero’s Journey, I have developed my own approach that combines these frameworks with my background as a therapist.
