Daniel Hope, LMFT
helping men create the enriched environments that trade the armor of fragility, loneliness, and addiction - for a life of sturdiness, belonging, and connection.
Why working with men is important
As men, we learn early how we should show up around our peers and family members. We learn that some parts of ourselves are not safe to share with the world. We internalize this way of being and then we turn around and police our male peers. Look back to our fathers, grandfathers and we see varying degrees of the same thing: Men living their lives with both their joy and grief limited, narrowed down to a pathetic spectrum. We compress our big feelings so tightly, we may not realize we are poised to pass on our limited range of being to our own children and their children.But what if we could be the ones to break this cycle?I find that, as men, our most direct path back to being fully human is through our grief. This isn't an easy pathway, but the wholeness it can reveal makes the journey worthwhile. This wholeness is then reflected in our relationships, our marriage and our work. Part of my own grief work is writing poetry. I wrote this poem, Healing the Prometheus Tree with a desire to put into words the opportunity we have as men to heal ourselves and the wounded Patriarchy, of which we are both benefactors and victims.If I can accompany you on this journey, please reach out and let me know how I can support you.
I'm sorry, but men don't know how to apologize. It's not our fault though, because no one ever taught us! In all of my training to become a therapist, no one taught me the timeless art of apology. I had to learn it through trial and plenty of error (just ask my wife!)
In this course I share everything that I have learned about apologizing -- I have broken it down into three steps:
Step 1: The Repair Space: Recognize you are in what I call the Repair Space
Step 2: The Two Coins: In every conflict there are 2 coins presented, Choose the Right Coin!
Step 3: The Mea Culpa: This is the framework for kind of apology that will lead to lasting healing.
This video-based course will give you everything you need to see these conflicts coming, and say just the right thing to stop the argument in its tracks? At the end of this 1 hour course you will have the tools you need to respond skillfully to your next conflict so that you and your partner can see your conflicts for the relationship-building opportunity that they are. From this place you can continue building the relationship that will serve you, your family, and your community for the rest of your lives.
My name is Daniel Hope and I believe we are all vulnerable heroes finding our way forward on a collective path. As a husband, father, and therapist in Austin, I have spent fifteen years helping men create the enriched environments that trade fragility, loneliness, and addiction for sturdiness, belonging, and connection.
Daniel Hope, MA, LMFT
My Approach
The Half-LitPath
Our collective imagination is limited by binary thinking. The Half-Lit Path lets us navigate skillfully between two seeming opposites to find our path of transformation.
4D ChangeModel
This model helps us understand why change is so hard and also gives us a roadmap for understanding these four universal stages. We begin with Discernment and we end with Discovery.
Elixir atEvery Step
The Elixir, or reward, we seek on our Hero's Journey is not found at the very end, when it is often too late. We must bring back the Elixir to our families and community at every step.
Who I've Worked With
ARTICLES
What do we do when it’s quiet … too quiet
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The Ancestors You Would Rather Forget
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