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It’s quiet and all seems right in the world, but for how long? I was sitting peacefully in my living room under the warm glow of the Christmas tree. Up until this moment things had been hectic, even frantic. A specific goal I had set my mind to had been achieved, and I felt good… Read More »What do we do when it’s quiet … too quiet

Ancestral Healing Some of the most meaningful work I engage in, both personally and professionally, is around ancestral healing. Our family just marked the one year anniversary of my grandmother’s death. My grandmother, Allene Hope, who I knew as Mammie, was a maternal figure for me throughout my life. At her funeral I had the… Read More »The Ancestors You Would Rather Forget

Sometimes when I am working with men, either in spiritual direction work, or in therapy, they will share with me the story of a mistake they have made, and how they are broken by that mistake. On many occasions I have shared with them the story of Donald Currey, the geologist who cut down the… Read More »The man who cut down the oldest tree in the world

Why change is so hard Life doesn’t happen in a straight line, neither do relationships.  There is no instruction manual, however, there are patterns that emerge. These patterns can be helpful in navigating our life and relationships. I break what I have observed into four universal stages: Discernment, Discomfort, Disarmament, and Discovery. I. Discernment This is… Read More »4D Change Model

Did you hear about the man who cut down the oldest tree in the world? He didn’t know it was that old until he had counted its fallen rings And then it was too late he had come for a core sample and left with a legacy I wished to know his story What was… Read More »Healing the Prometheus Tree

Previously, I told you about Archetype One: The Consultant & the Piddler. Today I am going to tell you about the second archetype of the Enneagram beginning with its illuminated aspect, the Benefactor. The Benefactor Strategy: We succeed when everyone benefits Motivation: Creating value Gifts: Intuiting what is needed If the gift of the Consultant is the ability… Read More »Archetype Two: The Benefactor & the Parasite

Previously, I described the 9 Illuminated Archetypes of Leadership. I also introduced you to the 9 shadowy counterparts known as the Eclipsed Archetypes. Knowing which set you belong to will give you an unparalleled insight into your own core motivations. It will also shine a spotlight on blindspots you never knew you had. But regardless of what your core… Read More »The 3 Rogue Archetypes that will undermine your leadership

If you have any familiarity with the Enneagram and its 9 archetypes you likely have not encountered this naming convention. You may know the first number on the Enneagram, the One, by many names like the Good Person, the Reformer, the Perfectionist or even the Strict Perfectionist as Integrative Enneagram describes it. While these titles… Read More »Archetype One: The Consultant & the Piddler

As I read Yuval Noah Harari’s book 21 Lessons for the 21st Century I was thrilled to learn of the Centaurs of the chess world, human/machine partners who worked together as a team. My dreams were soon dashed as I read that the machines continued to advance rapidly, evenutally making their human counterparts irrelevant. The Centaurs went the way of their mythological… Read More »Man vs. Machine? Not if we want to survive